While you are sitting there crying and missing your ex boyfriend after a breakup, do not think you are alone. There are plenty of other women all over the world that are doing the same thing. Although you have plenty of company, it does not make you feel any better or help get your ex back. This is something you will have to do yourself. Fortunately it may not be as hard as you think.
You might be feeling pretty discouraged right now because you have been trying to get your ex back and met nothing but failure. This could be happening because you are using the wrong tactics and all you are doing is making him more frustrated with you. If what you are doing seems to be pushing him farther away instead of pulling him back, you need a change of tactics.
You might have been thinking that you have to tell him how much you love and miss him. You may have been telling him you cannot live without him and calling him night and day with your message. If you think this will get your ex back, you are wrong. He may pity you, but he will also see you as a needy and desperate woman. This is not what you want him to feel toward you. To get your ex boyfriend back you have to show strength and maturity and make him admire you. Only then will he begin to miss you and that is the key to making him love you again.
People always want something they cannot have, but as long as you keep telling him you cannot live without him, he knows you are always available. To make him miss you and want you back, you will have to make him think he has lost you. He still loves you and does not want to lose you, no matter how he is acting. So make yourself scarce and drop out of sight. Do not have any contact with him at all for a few weeks.
Occupy yourself with family and friends you may have been neglecting while you were so absorbed by your relationship. They will be happy to see you and their love and support will restore your self confidence. Go out and have some fun and do things you always intended to do, but have never had the time. Doing volunteer work can take your mind off yourself and give you a feeling of usefulness.
Soon the news will get back to your ex boyfriend about how great you look and how well you have gotten over the breakup. This will wake him up to the fact that he misses you and could very well lose you. Your ex boyfriend will realize how much he needs you in his life and he will be contacting you.